31 Quotes From Pema Chödrön To Find Happiness In Your Life


Pema Chödrön born on  July 14, 1936,  is an American-born nun. In her name, “Pema” means “lotus flower” and “Chödrön” means “light of truth.” She has written many books throughout her life, some of them are best sellers in their category’s.

List of Pema Chödrön’s books

  •  When Things Fall Apart
  •  Places That Scare You
  •  Living Beautifully
  •  Start where You are: A Guide to Compassionate Living

Pema Chödrön Best 31 Quotes

1. “The only reason we don’t open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don’t feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else’s eyes. ”

2. “None of us is ever OK, but we all get through everything just fine.”

3. “Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.”

4. “If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.”

5. “Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others.”

6. “Do I prefer to grow up and relate to life directly, or do I choose to live and die in fear?”

7. “At the root of all the harm we cause is ignorance.”

8. “The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”

9. “To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.”

10. “You are the sky. Everything else – it’s just the weather.”

11. “It isn’t the things that happen to us in our lives that cause us to suffer, it’s how we relate to the things that happen to us that causes us to suffer.”

12. “feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it’s with us wherever we are.”

13. “We have two alternatives: either we question our beliefs – or we don’t.”

14. “We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart.”

15. “The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”

16. “As long as our orientation is toward perfection or success, we will never learn about unconditional friendship with ourselves, nor will we find compassion. ”

17. “It is possible to move through the drama of our lives without believing so earnestly in the character that we play. That we take ourselves so seriously, that we are so absurdly important in our own minds, is a problem for us. We feel justified in being annoyed with everything. We feel justified in denigrating ourselves or in feeling that we are more clever than other people. Self-importance hurts us, limiting us to the narrow world of our likes and dislikes. We end up bored to death with ourselves and our world. We end up never satisfied.”

18. “If someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there’s an arrow in your heart…”

19. “Rejoicing in ordinary things is not sentimental or trite. It actually takes guts. Each time we drop our complaints and allow everyday good fortune to inspire us, we enter the warrior’s world.”

20. “Most of us do not take these situations as teachings. We automatically hate them. We run like crazy. We use all kinds of ways to escape — all addictions stem from this moment when we meet our edge and we just can’t stand it. We feel we have to soften it, pad it with something, and we become addicted to whatever it is that seems to ease the pain.”

21. “Everybody loves something, even if it’s only tortillas.”

22. “It is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Blame others….Blaming is a way to protect your heart, trying to protect what is soft and open and tender in yourself. Rather than own that pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground.”

23. “We don’t set out to save the world; we set out to wonder how other people are doing and to reflect on how our actions affect other people’s hearts.”

24. “We have a choice. We can spend our whole life suffering because we can’t relax with how things really are, or we can relax and embrace the open-ended-ness of the human situation, which is fresh, unfixed, unbiased.”

25. “The greatest obstacle to connecting with our joy is resentment.”

26. “A further sign of health is that we don’t become undone by fear and trembling, but we take it as a message that it’s time to stop struggling and look directly at what’s threatening us. ”

27. “Hope and fear come from feeling that we lack something”

28. “When we protect ourselves so we won’t feel pain, that protection becomes like armor, like armor that imprisons the softness of the heart.”

29. “Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”

30. “Trying to run away is never the answer to being a fully human. Running away from the immediacy of our experience is like preferring death to life.”

31. “Honesty without kindness, humor, and goodheartedness can be just mean.”

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