“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” — Brian Tracy
What I have understood about negative personality is, those who have that, most of the time they are either suffering from any problem in their life or else they are insecure. It’s their insecurity and unhappiness shows through their words.
But the happy news is that they are less in numbers. Most of us are affirmative about our life. We live with an open heart to understand others. It’s easy to talk about positivity, but to mastering the art of that would be a very hard task. Especially, when there are people available to ruin that within a minute of conversation
The truth is that you are not alone who is facing these problems. I too have an experience on that. Believe me; it’s horrible! If you don’t take any measures immediately, then they have that capacity to change your mind and your life completely.
A negative person sees the world through his “negative” eyes, and always willing to put it on others too. It’s all about the approach of life. How a person sees that makes the difference.
Everything has its two sides, a positive person takes the positive message from it, and the negative person finds the faults in it.
What Are Some Common Qualities Of A Negative Person
Having Anger Issues: One Of the most Common problems that I often find in a negative person is their anger issues. They get angry very quickly, irrespective of the situation they are.
And anger never allowed a person to make a right decision for them. So, how could you expect that they will make a right decision for you?
Careless With Their Opinion: Their decision-making power is fragile. So, they are careless with their life, they find themselves impatient, and it’s very hard for them to complete any of their tasks.
Confused About Purpose: Almost every time I talked with a negative person, they seem to have no purpose in their life, and without a purpose, they find themselves empty in the crowd. That leads them to start criticizing others for no reason at all.
A Talkative Approach: Generally, we lose our productive attitude when we talk too much. Because it reduces our concentration power. We are less likely able to focus on our work. Our mind started wandering for other works and issues. That’s what happened with a negative person as well.
Superiority Problems: Low self-esteem also a common issue with them, and that leads them to believe that they don’t have any control over their work. So they try to dominate others.
Things You Need to Care When You’re Dealing with A Negative Person
Don’t Lose Your Value: A negative person may force you to believe that you don’t have any value in this world, your opinion doesn’t matter.
Believe In Your Dreams: They might also doubt your dreams, they may say that your dreams don’t matter they are impractical. You will never able to carry out that in reality.
“When someone tells me “no,” it doesn’t mean I can’t do it, it simply means I can’t do it with them.” ― Karen E. Quinones Miller
Care For Your Image: It takes a long time for a person to make their reputation in their life, but a negative person can wreck it.
9 Simple Steps To Handle A Negative Person
Be patient: The first approach would be to realizing that, is there any help that you can do for them. Don’t feel impatient when you are talking with a negative person. They may have said something that you don’t agree with, let them know that if it still doesn’t work properly, then it would be best to keep away from them.
Don’t Engage With Negativity: Sometimes to maintain our peace of mind we take some strong decisions, and it is normal, try to maintain some distance from them. If the topic is not okay, then it would be best to answer like “ok.”
Try To Be Positive: Every change that we wish to see in others should be needed to start from us. Change your thoughts completely, be positive all the time, watch think differently, I believe when we start seeing things positively, we become more calm and relaxed, and apparently a cool person can handle this kind of problems better than others.
Change Of Topic: Avoid any conversation that leads you to a negative discussion, if possible, then try to change the topic, discuss something positive.
We get nothing by criticizing others, irrespective of that if we start changing our thoughts, we can learn so much from others. Everyone has something unique qualities in them.
Avoid Criticism: Best approach against criticism would be to avoid that, because, if you started judging it, then you will find less time for work, focus on your work only, do it as much as you can, after completing the task forget about it, move with the next one.
Praise Them Often: Start identifying things that they are good at, praise them for that, negative people often keep up a low self-image for them so you can pull them up through your appraisals. Make them feel good about them; they will gradually start changing. But of course, it will take some time.
Part Of A Group: Call someone else to be a part of this conversation, through that way you will not need to handle the situation all alone, the negativity will be divided towards both of them. Moreover, you can take a collective decision also.
Stop Arguing With Them: It often seems to be found that people lose control when they deal with a negative person. Because they argue a lot., and most of these arguments are completely baseless. Although irrespective of arguing with them, just ignore that topic, you don’t need to prove anything to them.
Avoid Them Completely: After doing all these above steps if you still find yourself stuck. Then it would be best to avoid them altogether. It takes a long time to keep up a positive mindset every day. Don’t lose that so quickly.
At the end of this article, I will say negative people are all around us; the choice is ours to being with the positivity. Know your dreams, what you want to do, what matters to you, irrespective of what others think or do, keep up your unique voice. It’s better to be criticized than to do nothing. At least, you are learning something and life is all about lessons.
“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” — Maya Angelou