Listening is a great skill, but most of us lack that one. The quality of listening differentiates between an average achiever and a successful human being. On an average, women speak 20,000 words in a day and men speak 13,000 words. However, the question is how many words we listen.
When we start talking with someone, we have begun demanding their full attention, but in our case, we work exactly opposite of that.
Good listening quality can bring you a lot of benefits with it. Some of which can make real changes in your life.
Here is what you will get when you become a good listener.
Problem Solving Quality: The key to achieving your desired goal in this competitive world is to become a problem solver. Anybody can fire an average worker, but nobody will be able to fire a problem solver.
Understand Views of Others: Proper listing quality will give you the opportunity to listen to other people opinions, irrespective of your judgmental mind. And when you listen to others you learn new stuff, new views and understand new characters.
Decision Making Quality: You will grab more information by listing to others, ultimately that will help you in making the big decisions. You will feel fewer burdens in your neck. And at the end of the day that will help you in increase your overall production.
Better Relationships: Good listing quality will give you an edge over others; people will love to talk with you. They will share their deepest feelings. And that will help you in make a good bond with others.
Being Smart: Proper listening will make you smarter. You will make fewer mistakes. You will know when and what action will require for making out an effective result.
Leadership Skills: You will improve one of the core qualities of leadership by improving your listening qualities. As we all know “A Good Leader is a Great Listener.”
Increase Productivity: Listening will reduce the chances of making mistakes in your work. You will be able to make more product than you had ever done before.
Learning Quality: In the long run, listening will increase your learning capacity. You will be able to remember much better than others.
Convincing Quality: Proper listening quality will give you an edge to convince others over a subject or a topic that you might be interested. Also, it will increase the chances to win any argument.
Negotiation skills: Listening creates a significant impact on your negotiation skills. It’s added a great edge and helps you in becoming a great negotiator.
Now you know what you will get when you are a good listener. So, I will go through the next steps; Here I will discuss how to become a good listener.
Consider these 12 steps to becoming a good listener
Stop Unnecessary Talk: The first step you need to take is to stop talking. Do not speak unnecessary words when someone is talking with you. Let them speak; let them clear their point and their mind. Focus only on the message you are receiving.
Stop Helping Immediately: Normally when we listen to others, we try to help them immediately. We thought we had a better solution. We can fix this problem, but that doesn’t work. Stop helping them immediately, let them speak and then process the conversation in your mind.
Limit all distractions: Nobody likes to talk with a person who is always busy with other stuff, stop doing that. Try to give your full energy to one task at a time. If you’re really busy with something, then first finish that work, then start the conversation.
Remember Properly: Don’t forget something immediately what they told you. Remember the conversation so that next time when you will talk, they don’t need to repeat themselves. It will give them a sign of trust and loyalty.
Process in Your Mind: Before you give a response; try to process your words in your mind, repeat them, so that you can confirm what you are willing to say is relevant to the topic and without judgmental.
Be In a Zero: A good listener means you will need to deal with those people who are way opposite to your nature. Don’t judge them; try to put yourself in their position and then talk. It will help them feel secure to talk with you.
Don’t Interrupt: The best quality of a good listener is, he/she never interrupts in a conversation. Apply it to yourself also; don’t try to speak when someone else is speaking. Let them complete their sentence, then try to progress with your conversation.
Make them Confident: If you’re talking with someone who is not comfortable speaking with you, or have a doubtful mind, let them feel comfortable with you, then start the conversation.
Avoid habits and manners: Don’t focus on the other person’s manners and behaviors, just try to focus on their words. What they want to convey. Ultimately, that’s what matters.
Make Eye Contact: For being a good listener maintain a proper eye contact is an essential part, by doing so, you will not only avoid distraction but also understand your speaker well. Also, you will be able to read their body language correctly.
Clarification: If you think somewhere something is missing or you haven’t understood it properly, don’t skip that one, ask it again, so that you carried a clear picture.
Follow Up: Remember, don’t forget to follow up the discussion. Let them know you care. If it’s possible, call them, ask questions; similar to, Do they need any further attention or not? (However, don’t do it overly)
If you wish to be a good listener, then you will need to change some of your old habits and lifestyles. Lifestyles play a significant role in our overall personality. A good lifestyle will help you control your emotions.
Practice Silence: Practice silence regularly in your spare times. It will increase your ability to listen to others. Here is an article that I had written on it; it will help you adopt this habit in your lifestyle. How to Find Inner Peace Through Silence
Meditation: Do regular exercise or meditation. It will help you to calm down your anger, and will also increase your ability to focus. Here is an article that I had written on it; it will guide you to do so. What is meditation and why it is Important?
Conclusion: Listening is a great skill, and it doesn’t work in one day, you have to practice it for long, day in and day out, then only you can master it.