This week I am going through a series of articles on finding peace and happiness in our daily life. This is the second article in this series.
My today’s topic is to understand the concept of attachment, and how it impacts us in our daily life and our relationships.
Problem with Attachment
Let us start with a simple question, from where do the word attachment comes in our life? Does it come from love and affection, then what the highest stage of love? The highest stage of love is unconditional love.
- What is Unconditional Love? It is the light of detachment in your love
Attachment is not wrong until it becomes your weakness, but somehow attachment and weakness Compliments each other.
Attachment converts you to a genuinely progressive person with a big egoistic problem.
You started to dominate others whom once you love, and when you dominate others, you kill the freedom in your relationship.
Attachment carried away the power to love unconditionally. Attachment makes you slave to materialistic thinking.
You might think that you are doing well, but the truth is that you are not what you were once.
So the question is How to get rid of this Attachment. Here are few steps that will help you deal with this problem.
Ways to Deal with Attachment
Live in the Moment: Attachment comes into your life when you don’t live in the present moment when you start thinking about the past a lot.
Memories can only bring sorrow in your life. Instead of that if you choose to live in the present moment, then you will be much happier, no attachment will be able to bring you down to their nexus.
Believe Nothing Is Yours: Clinching to something or thinking that this will always stay like yours, or you are born to rule this brings the sorrow most.
It could be anything, starting from a house, property or a lot of money, anything that is close to you, anything that is materialistic, if you find yourself attach to it, one day surely you will bring sorrow through it.
Accepting the truth that nature gives you all of it and one day nature will also take away it, keep the pain and grief away from you.
Don’t Predict Results: Never look for the result, do what you can do now without expecting anything, take that decision, which is right for you at that moment, the prediction for the future will never give you peace of mind, it will only bring sadness in your life.
The best lesson that you take from your life is to do your work without any attachment to it.
Make Your Mind Clear: Always make sure that your mind is clear, don’t carry past thoughts, thoughts are just like water in a river, always let them go, if you keep storing it in your head one day you will face the flood.
Spread Your Attention: The more people become wise, the more they love the humanity; the question is why?
Because when you give your attention to a single person, you become attached to that person. Your mind decreases in a narrow way, and most of the time this kind of communication or relation never last long.
Instead of that, if you give your attention to those people who make your day, then you will not become so much attach to one person. You will keep up your freshness in your mind, and that will show through your personality and in dealing with people.
Get Used To Change: Life is a constant changing process since our childhood. Nothing remains same as we see it now, but sometimes we aren’t able to adapt ourselves to that constant change, because, we are afraid of it.
Except that you cannot control everything in your life, some days will come when you will need to “Let go” your most loved ones.
Retrieve What You Have: Sometimes when we feel like we don’t have anything in our life; everything is lost that is the time we must have to refocus, to look into ourselves. One incident should not become our destiny.
There are more to it, if it hurts you, then you will learn something from it as well, focus your mind on the learning lessons, make your coming days better.
Allow Others to Express Them: When you talk to someone, let them be right, don’t push your opinion on them all the time.
- Let them be right when they talk to you
- Let them feel good when they come to you.
Respect everyone’s opinions. When you respect others and when you open your mind to others, you open a new window to understanding the views of others.
Life is a classroom, sometimes we just failed ourselves in some subjects to learn things deeply, and when we know it, we start moving forward, with some strong faith and lesson.